Synopses & Reviews
After his wife dies in a car accident, bisexual writer and activist Steve Abbott moves with his two-year-old daughter to San Francisco. There they discover a city in the midst of revolution, bustling with gay men in search of liberation—few of whom are raising a child.
Steve throws himself into San Francisco’s vibrant cultural scene. He takes Alysia to raucous parties, pushes her in front of the microphone at poetry readings, and introduces her to a world of artists, thinkers, and writers. But the pair live like nomads, moving from apartment to apartment, with a revolving cast of roommates and little structure. As a child Alysia views her father as a loving playmate who can transform the ordinary into magic, but as she gets older Alysia wants more than anything to fit in. The world, she learns, is hostile to difference.
In Alysia’s teens, Steve’s friends—several of whom she has befriended—fall ill as AIDS starts its rampage through their community. While Alysia is studying in New York and then in France, her father tells her it’s time to come home; he’s sick with AIDS. Alysia must choose whether to take on the responsibility of caring for her father or continue the independent life she has worked so hard to create.
Reconstructing their life together from a remarkable cache of her father’s journals, letters, and writings, Alysia Abbott gives us an unforgettable portrait of a tumultuous, historic time in San Francisco as well as an exquisitely moving account of a father’s legacy and a daughter’s love.
Review
"I'm so glad you wrote this book." Terry Gross, on "Fresh Air"
Review
""[A] daughter's compassionate, clear-eyed reckoning with [the] truths that defined her singular girlhood at the dawn of the gay liberation movement." Alexandra Styron
Review
"Doubles as a portrait of a city and a community at a crucial point in history. . . . funny, strange, and sweet." New Yorker
Review
"Alysia beautifully remembers the innocence of the age between the disappearance of the Beats and the onset of AIDS." San Francisco Chronicle
Review
"As a chronicle of American culture, Abbott's story matters." San Francisco Chronicle
Review
"Generous, precise, and deeply moving, is a love story that not only brings a new generational perspective to a history we're in danger of forgetting, but irrevocably shifts the way we think about family itself." Alison Bechdel, author of Are You My Mother?
Review
"Gorgeous. . . . As a chronicle of the moment when the San Francisco of Armistad Maupin became the city of Harvey Milk, when gay and experimental poetry flourished in California, is vivid and indelible. As the portrait of a conspiracy of love between a father and a daughter, it is heartrending, a brilliant addition to the literature of American memoir." Honor Moore, Author of The Bishop's Daughter
Review
"A vivid, sensitively written account of a complex but always loving relationship. This is not only a painfully honest autobiography but also a tribute to old-fashioned bohemian values in a world that is increasingly conformist and materialistic. I couldn't put it down!" Honor Moore, Author of The Bishop's Daughter
Review
"A beautiful, haunting book that instructs, even as it breaks our hearts." Edmund White, author of A Boy's Own Story
Review
"Starred review. She writes up to a standard that would do any writer-parent proud. If there's plenty of emotion in her recollections, they lack all sentimentality, sensationalism, and special pleading. Like Ira Wagner's, (2011), a tale of another radically different, unusual upbringing, is written in shiningly clear, precise prose that gives it literary as well as testimonial distinction." Dani Shapiro, author of Devotion: A Memoir
Review
"Clear-eyed and heartrending, captures a singular time and place in American history. It also captures something much more important: what it means to be truly loved--and to love truly. A beautiful book." Booklist
Review
"As she depicts the dynamics of a unique, occasionally fraught, gay parent-straight child relationship, Abbott offers unforgettable glimpses into a community that has since left an indelible mark on both the literary and social histories of one of America's most colorful cities. A sympathetic and deeply moving story." Andrew McCarthy, author of The Longest Way Home
Review
"I love the book ; it's a sweet and unique love story." Kirkus Reviews
Synopsis
A beautiful, vibrant memoir about growing up motherless in 1970s and '80s San Francisco with an openly gay father.
Synopsis
In this vibrant memoir, Alysia Abbott recounts growing up in 1970s San Francisco with Steve Abbott, a gay, single father during an era when that was rare. Reconstructing their time together from a remarkable cache of Steve's writings, Alysia gives us an unforgettable portrait of a tumultuous, historic period in San Francisco as well as an exquisitely moving account of a father's legacy and a daughter's love.
Synopsis
With a new foreword
About the Author
Alysia Abbott's work has appeared in Real Simple, Salon, and TheAtlantic.com. She is a graduate of the New School's MFA program and was a contributing producer at WNYC radio. She lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts, with her husband and two children.