Synopses & Reviews
Toddlers can drive you bonkers: so adorable and fun one minute...so stubborn and demanding the next! Yet, as unbelievable as it sounds, there
is a way to turn the daily stream of "nos" and "don'ts" into "yeses" and hugs...if you know how to speak your toddler's language. In one of the most useful advances in parenting techniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp reveals that toddlers, with their immature brains and stormy outbursts, should be thought of not as pint-size people but as pintsize...cavemen.
Having noticed that the usual techniques often failed to calm crying toddlers, Dr. Karp discovered that the key to effective communication was to speak to them in their own primitive language. When he did, suddenly he was able to soothe their outbursts almost every time! This amazing success led him to the realization that children between the ages of one and four go through four stages of "evolutionary" growth, each linked to the development of the brain, and each echoing a step in prehistoric humankind's journey to civilization:
- The "Charming Chimp-Child" (12 to 18 months): Wobbles around on two legs, grabs everything in reach, plays a nonstop game of "monkey see monkey do."
- The "Knee-High Neanderthal" (18 to 24 months): Strong-willed, fun-loving, messy, with a vocabulary of about thirty words, the favorites being "no" and "mine."
- The "Clever Caveman" (24 to 36 months): Just beginning to learn how to share, make friends, take turns, and use the potty.
- The "Versatile Villager" (36 to 48 months): Loves to tell stories, sing songs and dance, while trying hard to behave.
To speak to these children, Dr. Karp has developed two extraordinarily effective techniques:
1) The "fast food" rule restating what your child has said to make sure you got it right;
2) The four-step rule using gesture, repetition, simplicity, and tone to help your irate Stone-Ager be happy again.
Once you've mastered "toddler-ese," you will be ready to apply behavioral techniques specific to each stage of your child's development, such as teaching patience and calm, doing time-outs (and time-ins), praise through "gossiping," and many other strategies. Then all the major challenges of the toddler years including separation anxiety, sibling rivalry, toilet training, night fears, sleep problems, picky eating, biting and hitting, medicine taking can be handled in a way that will make your toddler feel understood. The result: fewer tantrums, less yelling, and, best of all, more happy, loving time for you and your child.
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"[P]ractical advice for parents struggling to handle their toddler's never-ending tantrums and mood swings....Even though the prehistoric metaphor is occasionally overdone, the advice is both refreshing and sound." Library Journal
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"You want help? This is r-e-a-l help! The Happiest Toddler is one of the smartest parenting books of the past decade. Over and over, parents will find themselves proclaiming, 'Thanks, Dr. Karp...Now I get it!'" Kyle Pruett, MD, Professor of Child Psychiatry, Yale University School of Medicine, and author of Fatherneed: Why Fathercare is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child
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"Dr. Karp's approach is terrific...and fun! His book will help parents, grandparents and everyone who cares for toddlers be more effective." Martin Stein, MD, Professor of Pediatrics, University of California San Diego, Children's Hospital San Diego
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"Dr. Karp helps parents turn the 'terrible' twos into 'terrific' twos. His work will revolutionize the way our culture understands toddlers!" Roni Cohen Leiderman, Ph.D, Associate Dean, Mailman Segal Institute for Early Childhood Studies, Nova Southeastern University
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"Dr. Karp has done it again! Parents will find reading The Happiest Toddler a joyous adventure...with pearls of wisdom waiting for them on every page." Morris Green, MD, Director, Behavioral Pediatrics, Indiana University, Riley Hospital for Children, editor, Pediatric Diagnosis
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"Dr. Karp's excellent approach gives parents the tools they need. His simple methods make raising rambunctious toddlers a whole lot easier." Steven Shelov, MD, Editor in chief, American Academy of Pediatrics' Caring for Your Baby and Young Child
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"Dr. Karp's new book is an innovative, unique and thoroughly enjoyable guide to toddler behavior!" Donald Middleton, MD, Professor of Family Medicine, University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine
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"Parents will be delighted by this clever approach to communicating with toddlers. It allows us to see the world from our children's unique point of view." Janet Serwint, Professor of Pediatrics, Director of the Harriet Lane Children's Clinic, Johns Hopkins School of Medicine
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"It really works! With great humor and a gentle touch, Dr. Karp shows how to raise happy, well-behaved toddlers. His book is invaluable." Gabrielle Redford, Senior Editor, AARP The Magazine (and mother of 17-month-old twins)
Synopsis
From the renowned pediatrician who taught parents how to calm their crying babies in The Happiest Baby on the Block comes a breakthrough book that explains a new way to raise a secure and well-behaved 1 to 4 year old and prevent a toddler's tantrums.
About the Author
Harvey Karp, M.D., is an assistant professor of pediatrics at the UCLA School of Medicine, with a private practice in Santa Monica. Author of The Happiest Baby on the Block, Dr. Karp is a nationally renowned expert in child development, children's health and the environment, and breastfeeding. He lives with his wife and daughter in California.