Synopses & Reviews
Social drinking is an accepted aspect of working life in Japan, and women are left to manage their drunken husbands when the men return home, restoring them to sobriety for the next day of work. In attempting to cope with their husbands' alcoholism, the women face a profound cultural dilemma: when does the nurturing behavior expected of a good wife and mother become part of a pattern of behavior that is actually destructive? How does the celebration of nurturance and dependency mask the exploitative aspects not just of family life but also of public life in Japan? The Too-Good Wife follows the experiences of a group of middle-class women in Tokyo who participated in a weekly support meeting for families of substance abusers at a public mental-health clinic. Amy Borovoy deftly analyzes the dilemmas of being female in modern Japan and the grace with which women struggle within a system that supports wives and mothers but thwarts their attempts to find fulfillment outside the family. The central concerns of the book reach beyond the problem of alcoholism to examine the women's own processes of self-reflection and criticism and the deeper fissures and asymmetries that undergird Japanese productivity and social order.
Amy Borovoy has beautifully portrayed the dilemmas of being female in modern Japan, and the nuanced grace with which these women manage their particular difficulties. She has created an indelible portrait of the way women struggle with the eternal questions of being mothers and wives, in particularly Japanese ways, and the ways in which they reflect upon and manage their lives. It is a remarkable book.”Tanya Luhrmann, Max Palevsky Professor in the Committee on Human Development, University of Chicago
About the Author
Amy Borovoy is Assistant Professor of East Asian Studies at Princeton University.
Table of Contents
Introduction: Dirty Lukewarm Water”
1. Alcoholism and Codependency: New Vocabularies for Unspeakable Problems
2. Motherhood, Nurturance, and Total Care” in Postwar National Ideology
3. Good Wives: Negotiating Marital Relationships
4. A Success Story
5. The Inescapable Discourse of Motherhood
Conclusion: The Home as a Feminist Dilemma