Synopses & Reviews
Synopsis
Our societies are remarkably confident on the matter: Affairs are terrible things and only fools, monsters and knaves would ever be involved in them. Those who are their victims deserve unending sympathy and access to a good lawyer. This stance may be clear, but it is not especially helpful or productive--given that, in reality, 1 in 4 of us are going to end up involved in an affair during our lifetime.
This is a book written to increase our understanding of what is really at stake in affairs: it looks at why affairs happen and ventures beyond black and white caricatures. It delves into the question of what unfaithful sex means and why, despite the risks, it happens so often. Most importantly, the book seeks to help us through affairs, offering couples a better understanding of each other's motivations and moods--and, where desirable, a way to save a relationship. We have for too long either openly condemned or secretly lusted after affairs: this, finally, is a chance to understand them.
"An affair is rarely a symptom of a mean-minded desire to exit the relationship; it is usually a dangerously garbled plea for intimacy and reconnection--an attempt, however wrongly enacted, by one partner to remember and communicate what they so desperately want and need from love."
Synopsis
A thoughtful exploration of the complex motivations and emotions behind affairs.Our societies are remarkably confident on the matter: Affairs are terrible things and only fools, monsters and knaves would ever be involved in them. Those who are their victims deserve unending sympathy and access to a good lawyer. This stance may be clear, but it is not especially helpful or productive--given that, in reality, 1 in 4 of us are going to end up involved in an affair during our lifetime.
This is a book written to increase our understanding of what is really at stake in affairs: it looks at why affairs happen and ventures beyond black and white caricatures. It delves into the question of what unfaithful sex means and why, despite the risks, it happens so often. Most importantly, the book seeks to help us through affairs, offering couples a better understanding of each other's motivations and moods--and, where desirable, a way to save a relationship. We have for too long either openly condemned or secretly lusted after affairs: this, finally, is a chance to understand them.
"An affair is rarely a symptom of a mean-minded desire to exit the relationship; it is usually a dangerously garbled plea for intimacy and reconnection--an attempt, however wrongly enacted, by one partner to remember and communicate what they so desperately want and need from love."
Synopsis
Part of The School of Life's Love series, Affairs delves into the question of affairs and why they happen so often One in four people will be involved in an affair during their lifetime. Rather than condemning affairs as morally corrupt, this book helps us understand them.
Society tells us that affairs are unequivocally bad. Our culture casts those who engage in them as monsters, and their victims as deserving of unending sympathy. But most of us will be involved in an affair during our lifetimes. This book ventures beyond the cultural caricatures and provides psychological context for this entirely common occurrence. This book seeks to help us through affairs, offering couples a better understanding of each other's motivations and moods-and the practical tools needed to save a relationship.
- PRACTICAL ADVICE ON AFFAIRS and on dealing with the aftermath of an affair.
- WHY DO AFFAIRS HAPPEN? historical and psychological framework to help us understand affairs-both the lead up, and the aftermath.
- A FRESH TAKE ON INFIDELITY and how it impacts our lives.
- PART OF THE SCHOOL OF LIFE'S LOVE SERIES focusing on the joys and sorrows of relationships.