Synopses & Reviews
The key to having fulfilling relationships, experiencing a satisfying work life, being authentic, confident, and comfortable with yourself is simple, says Gail Saltz, M.D. The stories we told ourselves as children to make sense of the world around us are the cause of most of our adult problems.
Becoming Real illustrates how to find those stories and rewrite them so that we can be free of the past, of repeating history, and start down the road to taking control, being stronger, and having the best relationships of our lives.
Emotional pain and difficulty mean that a story you told yourself as a child about how life should be and about who you are isn't working anymore. It's a story that looks like the truth, but it's not myths like these: "I can't depend on anyone but myself." "There must be something wrong with me that no one stays around." "People don't give me the credit I deserve."
You'll know a story is holding you back if you're experiencing any of the following symptoms: having outbursts of anger out of proportion to the cause; repeating behaviors you don't like in spite of your determination never to repeat them; repeatedly dating or marrying the wrong person; never being happy with your work.
Becoming Real demonstrates how to recognize and defeat the stories that keep us from being happy and prevent us from having fulfilling relationships in our personal lives and at work.
Review
"Although the author's instructions for undergoing this process are specific and clear, this is not a quick fix self-help book, but is based on psychoanalytic technique that will take time and commitment." Publishers Weekly
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"Dr. Saltz is a voice of wisdom and insight in a world of confusion and contradictions. We can all learn from her sagacity." Tom Brokaw
Synopsis
Today Show psychiatrist Gail Saltz, M.D., shows readers how to break old patterns and take control, by laying out a step-by-step program for discovering why we're repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
Synopsis
The Today show's psychiatrist shows readers how to stop living half a life, break old patterns, and take control You have a story. The one you're not even aware you're telling yourself, the one you made up as a child to explain the behavior of your parents, the lack of control over your circumstances, the one that's keeping you from becoming more confident, the story that's keeping you from the five qualities of becoming real:
- Authenticity
- Personal Freedom
- True Strength
- Self-Acceptance
- Intimacy
Through revealing and intensive questionnaires, Dr. Gail Saltz helps you to finally identify self-defeating behaviors, improve your self-esteem, and escape your personal trapsthe same difficult relationships, the same work problems, the same issues with family and friendsso that you can live with more freedom and control once and for all. Identify the symptoms, and you'll be able to discoverand rewritethe story of your life.
Synopsis
In this refreshing and unique book, Today Show psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz shows how to pinpoint, deal with, and eliminate the debilitating baggage that stands in the way of success. Through revealing and intensive questionnaires, Becoming Real helps identify the symptoms that lead to repetitive self-defeating behaviors and provides essential tools for becoming a stronger person-in love, friendship, career, and in life-with a newfound confidence.
About the Author
Gail Saltz, M.D., is a mental health contributor to the Today show and is a contributing editor for Glamour magazine. She has appeared on Dateline, on CBS News and the Early Show, and on Fox News and Health News, among other television shows, and has been featured in the Associated Press, the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, the Los Angeles Times, New York magazine, Newsweek, Harper's Bazaar, Redbook, Woman's World, Town and Country, and WebMD.