Synopses & Reviews
Synopsis
From toxic patterns and trauma to transformation, Beyond Messy Relationships guides readers through an authentic journey through AIR--Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks--to find hope.
Most people seek therapy too late or not at all. They struggle in their long-term marriages, experiencing regret and loneliness, believing it is too late for change to make a difference. When professional relationship therapist Judy Herman's 28-year marriage ended in divorce, she began to question what is considered normal and healthy in relationships. After learning to dance, she married her ballroom dance partner and now shares the story of how she recovered her authentic self after the trauma of her husband's psychosis. Beyond Messy Relationships presents a simple formula for readers in the form of AIR: Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks. Those struggling in long-term marriages or other relationship challenges are reminded to breath in the truth of their innate value, dignity, and worth and are shown how to take healthy risks for transformational change.
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Discover your true self and find hope beyond your messy relationships As a mental health therapist, Judy prepares to see her next client. As a wife, she falls apart in the midst of her husband's psychosis. His inpatient psychiatrist says, "This is going to be a hard case".
Judy's first marriage of 29 years ended in divorce after toxic patterns of chronic bitterness. Facing the shame of her past and mothering four children, she recognizes divine invitations toward her authentic self. After four years into a new marriage with her beloved dance partner, Judy suddenly faces frightful realities.
Can Judy's second marriage recover from damage caused by his psychosis?
Beyond Messy Relationships is not only an intense and dramatic memoir. It's a mix of psychological wisdom and spiritual inspiration that helps readers make sense of their deep feelings.
In Beyond Messy Relationships, readers:
Discover they're not alone as they resonate with the messy relationships of a licensed professional counselor Learn a simple formula of A.I.R. to experience freedom beyond the messes Connect the dots from their past to their present Overcome shame so they can experience the freedom they long for Within Beyond Messy Relationships, readers find hope through the formula of breathing in fresh A.I.R.: Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks and recognize divine invitations beyond the messes. Finding your authentic self is worth the journey.
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A marriage memoir from a professional relationship therapist that shows those struggling in their relationships how to enact transformational change.
Synopsis
Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations to Your Authentic Self. . . is not only an intense and dramatic memoir. It is a mixture of psychological wisdom and spiritual inspiration.
Judy K. Herman brings hope through her formula of breathing in fresh A.I.R. The acronym for
Awareness,
Intentionality, and
Risks of growth.
Beyond Messy Relationships helps you learn to forgive and remember. You'll see that relationships are mirrors to your soul. They show us our blind spots giving us the ability to courageously grow and grow up. Emotions are valuable messengers designed to move and flow.
Topics you'll discover include the messes beyond:
post-divorce issuessingle parenting and remarriageimposter syndromebetrayal and recovery
You'll learn to identify your own relationship dances (patterns) outlined in
Beyond Messy Relationships. More importantly, you'll be able to co-create a different dance for a more resilient and growing relationship.
Discover you're not alone as you resonate with the messy relationships of a psychotherapist along with valuable life-lessons.Learn a simple formula breathing fresh A.I.R. to experience freedom from guilt and regret.Gain insights that inspire positive changes that last.Become shame resilient.Discover your true self and find joy beyond your messy relationships.
Since the book was released in September of 2019, there is now a different epilogue that became catalysts for more resources.
To find out more about the story Beyond Messy Relationships get Judy's second book, Relationships With Purpose and tune into her podcast Better Relationships, Better Life. The books and podcast are great supplements to your own therapy if you are receiving psychotherapy. Both are also great book club discussions. Ask for the resource "Questions to Ponder."
Judy has a growing youtube channel with teaching videos and interviews to help you with gain relationship strategies, tips and tools.