Synopses & Reviews
HEARING IS BELIEVING demonstrates that the words we say to children can have a profound positive or negative effect and it goes on to show readers how a few simple changes in parenting language can reward them with family harmony, turn parenting into a joy rather than a burden, and help them rear children with healthy self-esteem. This book suggests we can teach children how to think for themselves and learn to be rewarded with acceptance as a consequence of their contribution rather than needing acceptance and conforming. Dr. Medhus offers changes in language and parent/child communication that are simple to implement and continue to use. The results are immediately gratifyingmany who have made these changes say they see profound effects in their children and their families within two weeks.
Once these harmful phrases and their effects are exposed for what they really are, theyre easy to eliminate from our daily dialogue. HEARING IS BELIEVING offers better and more empowering alternatives for each phrase, as well as stories that illustrate the results. Parents will be rewarded with a fulfilling and harmonious relationship with all children.
Review
"Practical, immediately useful advice for every parent-child interaction. Laced with humor, written with joy, reading this parents can't help but be more effective with their children." Foster W. Cline, M.D.
Synopsis
In Hearing Is Believing, award-winning author Elisa Medhus argues that even seemingly harmless phrases such as "You're such a good girl" can encourage children to become approval seekers, thwart their ability to reason, or both. Over time, these children become less inclined to trust their parents' guidance and internalize their values. Exposing potentially harmful words and phrases, many that may surprise readers, this book suggests language changes that are simple to implement and keep up. Stories illustrate positive results.
Table of Contents
A summary at the beginning -- Zazen posture -- Breathing in zazen -- Samadhi -- Pure existence -- Stages in zen training -- Afterword -- The pathos of things.