Synopses & Reviews
Why is the stereotypical image of the bride before her wedding day that of a stressed, moody, indecisive, and frustrated woman cracking under pressure and snapping at everyone in sight? Why does being a bride feel like going through a second adolescence? And why, with the rate of couples seeking counseling for wedding-related debt doubling from year to year, do we continue to spend absurd amounts of money on this institution? Examining how the pressure to give into the crowd (mothers, mothers-in-law, caterers, dressmakers, bridesmaids, the groom himself) and the associated traditions (wearing white, being given away, being introduced as Mr. and Mrs. Groom) is sometimes at odds with the "progress" the bride and groom may have made on these issues in private, Kamy Wicoff answers these questions and more in this sure-to-be-talked-about look at the modern bride. Through poignant and funny personal experience, eye-opening conversations with other brides, and scholarly and popular research, she strives to find both the personal and cultural meaning of all the trappings and traditions-from the proposal to the ring, to the dress, and even the bachelorette party. Her insights will blow the roof off the proverbial wedding tent. Her passionate argument for conscious marriage will ring true to the thousands of women planning weddings every day. To keep our sanity, our integrity, and our relationships intact, Wicoff says, "the way we marry matters."
Synopsis
A modern woman's guide to the ins and outs of marriage describes the pressures to have a traditional wedding, the personal cultural meaning of all the trappings and traditions, and the problems of spending a vast amount of money on such extravaganzas, calling for a conscious approach to planning a wedding designed to help keep one's sanity, integrity, and relationships intact. 40,000 first printing.
Synopsis
Sandwiched between feminist ideals and the allure of the traditional wedding, a modern woman's look at what it means to be a bride
About the Author
A contributor to Salon.com, Kamy Wicoff lives in New York City. She and her husband have two children.