Synopses & Reviews
Outlining the six tactics kids use to get their way, this reference teaches parents to think objectively about their children's favorite ploys and emotionally manipulative strategies. Insightful analyses emphasize the importance of understanding the underlying emotional dynamics of testing and offer practical solutions, from knowing how to say “no” comfortably to when to say “yes” encouragingly. Ensuring a healthy relationship between children and parents, this humorous, down-to-earth guide enables parents to manage their own behavior and that of their children.
Review
From the author of the best-selling and award winning 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12.(Thomas W. Phelan)
Review
“One of the most powerful crystallizations of Caribbean childhood since George Lammings
In the Castle of My Skin.” —Chris Searle
Synopsis
From the author of the bestselling parenting book 1-2-3 Magic
Outlining the six tactics kids use to get their way, this reference teaches parents to think objectively about how their children can sometimes manipulate their parents into getting what they want. Insightful analyses emphasize the importance of understanding the underlying emotional dynamics of testing and offer practical solutions, from knowing how to say no comfortably to when to say yes encouragingly. Ensuring a healthy relationship between children and parents, this humorous, down-to-earth guide enables parents to manage their own behavior and that of their children.
Synopsis
Dr. Thomas W. Phelan is an internationally renowned expert and lecturer on child discipline and Attention Deficit Disorder. He appears frequently on radio and TV and has been engaged in private practice since 1972. A registered, Ph.D. clinical psychologist, Dr. Phelan is a member of both the Illinois Psychological Association and the American Psychological Association. Dr. Phelan has produced many video, book and audio titles for parents and teachers, including the best-selling and award winning book, 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12.
Synopsis
In this humorous, down-to-earth guide, a renowned expert on child discipline offers parents strategies for stopping badgering, tantrums, sulking, and threats by their offspring.
Description
Jenny is no longer talking to anybody and has declined to eat dinner. Tommy is threatening to run away from home. Melissa is yelling out her bedroom window "I can't breathe! I can't breathe!!" Bobby is spray painting the screwdriver display in the local hardware store. What are these kids doing? They are frustrated, and they are attempting to use several of the Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation to get their way from their parents. It is no news flash that, from the time they are toddlers, children will frequently try to "press their parents' buttons" in order to get their way. Surprisingly, however, many Moms and Dads act as if this phenomenon were a news flash. Some parents think kids should always want to cooperate-after all, it's for the youngster's own good! The bad news is that our little ones will try to test their parents. The good news is that in "I Never Get Anything!!" clinical psychologist Dr. Thomas W. Phelan identifies the six kinds of emotional blackmail used by youngsters to get their way. These tactics include Badgering, Temper, Threats, Martyrdom, Butter Up and Physical Tactics. How parents think about and manage these testing strategies is a universal and critically important problem. Parental responses to children's emotional blackmail have a tremendous effect not only on the parent-child relationship, but also on a parent's own mental health and marriage. Management of testing also strongly impacts the future welfare of a child. As Dr. Phelan points out, kids who don't learn the discipline of frustration tolerance early in life are going to be in trouble later in life. Parents cannot wish their kids into a State of Perpetual Cooperation and Gracious Acceptance of All Disappointment. "I Never Get Anything!!" is a humorous, practical and down-to-earth guide that tells Mom and Dad what to expect from their frustrated children and exactly how to handle it-gently and firmly.
About the Author
Thomas W. Phelan, PhD is a clinical psychologist and the author of
1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children,
All About Attention Deficit Disorder,
Surviving Your Adolescents,
Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children, and
Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.