Synopses & Reviews
One of the most fundamental human urges is to form a pair. Despite many tendencies that threaten traditional marriage and even make committed cohabitation problematic, very few people live through adulthood without at least one lengthy relationship, and up to ninety percent of Americans marry at least once in their lives. This pioneering volume draws attention to issues that question the unspoken traditional practices underlying coupling in America. In it, some of today's most innovative feminist scholars consider the dramatic changes couples have experienced over the past fifty years, such as the proliferation of divorce, the increase in ethnically-mixed relationships, the preponderance of older couples, and the new visibility of same-sex unions.
Approaching their subject from a range of disciplines, the authors explore the couple as an enduring paradigm for human relationships, despite the changes in ideology and practice that couples have experienced over time. The essays delve into such subjects as the historical roots of modern marriage, the recent phenomenon of lesbian and gay commitment ceremonies, the home as a workplace and a place of refuge, and the stresses that turn a happy marriage into an unhappy one. One chapter explodes the myth that feminists are responsible for the high incidence of divorce, while another focuses on the financial worth of the wife after the demise of a long-standing marriage.
Taken together, these essays impart a deep and complex picture of the challenges facing couples in our time. The vital and engaging narratives show that however anxious our society may be in the face of dissolving marriages and dysfunctional families, couples will continue to form the bedrock of American society in the twenty-first century.
"By interrogating rather than accepting traditional platitudes about our need to be coupled, this vital and original collection both broadens our understanding of what constitutes a couple and deepens our appreciation for the human needs that coupling meets."Michael S. Kimmel, author of Manhood in America: A Cultural Reader
"Reading this book is like looking at a crystal-first one interesting facet of coupledom and then another comes into view. It's entrancing!"Barrie Thorne, Director, Center for Working Families, University of California, Berkeley
"This wonderfully important book shows where the couple has been and where it is going, challenging us to simultaneously remake and redefine coupledom for ourselves. Reassuring and enlightening, Inside the American Couple is essential reading for anyone concerned with joining in partnership and love with another human being."Rebecca Walker, author of Black, White and Jewish: Autobiography of a Shifting Self
About the Author
Marilyn Yalom is Senior Scholar at the Institute for Research on Women and Gender at Stanford University and author of A History of the Wife (2001), A History of the Breast (1997), Blood Sisters: The French Revolution in Women's Memory (1993), and Maternity, Mortality, and the Literature of Madness (1985). Laura Carstensen is Professor of Psychology and the Barbara D. Finberg Director of the Institute for Research on Women and Gender at Stanford University. She has published more than eighty articles and chapters on life-span development, marriage, and emotion.
Table of Contents
Laura L. Carstensen and Marilyn Yalom
1. Biblical Models:
From Adam and Eve to the Bride of Christ
2. Dearest Friend:
The Marriage of Abigail and John Adams
3. "The Thing Bartered":
Love, Economics, and the Victorian Couple
4. "Boston Marriage" among Lesbians:
Are We a Couple If Were Not Having Sex?
Esther D. Rothblum
5. "Youll Never Walk Alone":
Lesbian and Gay Weddings and the
Authenticity of the Same-Sex Couple
6. The Couple at Home
7. When One of Us Is Ill:
Scenes from a Partnership
8. Wives and Husbands Working Together:
Law Partners and Marital Partners
Cynthia Fuchs Epstein
9. Grounds for Marriage
Reflections and Research on an Institution in Transition
10. Divorce, American Style
Deborah L. Rhode
11. Divorce, Executive Style:
Whats a Wife Worth?
Myra H. Strober
12. Toward an Understanding of Asian American
Interracial Marriage and Dating
Jeanne L. Tsai, Diane E. Przymus, and Jennifer L. Best
13. Arranged Marriages
(Whats Love Got to Do with It?)
14. Marriage in Old Age
Susan Turk Charles and Laura L. Carstensen
List of Contributors