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Its OK That Youre Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesnt Understand

by Megan Devine
Its OK That Youre Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesnt Understand

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ISBN10: 1622039076



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It's OK That You're Not OK is excellent at saying the quiet parts out loud regarding grief. Devine touches on anger, frustration, and how to set boundaries with people, even your own family. This book is full of anecdotes and matter-of-fact statements that try to help grief feel more tolerable. These stories and coping techniques aren't here to "fix" your grief, but rather help you feel held within it. Recommended By Rin S., Powells.com

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When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. "Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form," says Megan Devine. "It is a natural and sane response to loss."

So, why does our culture treat grief like a disease to be cured as quickly as possible?

In It's OK That You're Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides--as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner--Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you'll learn:

- Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
- How challenging the myths of grief--doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold--allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
- Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain
- How to help the people you love--with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process

Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution." Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face--in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world.

It's OK That You're Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves--and each other--better.

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“In this beautifully written offering for our broken hearts, Megan Devine antidotes the culture’s messed up messages about bearing the unbearable. We don’t have to apologize for being sad! Grief is not a disease from which we must be cured as soon as possible! Rather, the landscape of loss is one of the holiest spaces we can enter. Megan serves as our fearless, feisty, and profoundly compassionate guide.” Mirabai Starr, translator of Dark Night of the Soul: John of the Cross and author of Caravan of No Despair: A Memoir of Loss and Transformation

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“Megan Devine has captured the grief experience: grief is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be honored. She understands the pain that grieving people carry on top of their actual grief, including the pain of being judged, dismissed, and misunderstood. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is the book I’ve been waiting for for 30 years—the one I can recommend to any newly bereaved parent, widow, widower, or adult grieving a death.” Donna Schuurman, senior director of advocacy and training at The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families

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“It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a permission slip to feel what you feel, do what you do, and say what you say, when life finds you in a place of profound loss and the world seems hell-bent on telling you the right way to get back to being the person you'll never again be.” Jonathan Fields, author of How to Live a Good Life, founder of Good Life Project

About the Author

Megan Devine is a writer, speaker, and advocate for emotional change on a cultural level. She holds a master’s in counseling psychology. Since the tragic loss of her partner in 2009, Megan has emerged as a bold new voice in the world of grief support. Her contributions via her site Refuge in Grief have helped create sanctuary for those in pain and encouragement for those who want to help. For more, visit refugeingrief.com.

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I was disappointed in this book since it came so highly recommended by my grief group. I didn't find it interesting at all and stopped reading it soon after I began.

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Sherry , January 24, 2018
I just added this book to my wishlist! I love everything I read about it in the review and am so happy I receive the daily emails from Powell's! Our culture is so kooky when it comes to death and grieving. We need more inroads to talking about it all and accepting it all. It sounds as if this book is one of those inroads! Can't wait to read it!

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Angie Kopshy , January 17, 2018 (view all comments by Angie Kopshy)
I want to start out by saying that this book came in a collection of new releases that I won. I wasn't seeking out a book on grief. I didn't think I needed one. I lost my little brother when I was 21 and worked through the proper steps of grieving twenty years ago. On top of that, as a therapist, I've had lots of psych classes including one on Disenfranchised Grief. I wasn't overly-confident about how to handle my own grief or support a loved one, but I certainly didn't think that I was doing it all wrong. This book was riveting from the beginning and I didn't want to put it down. I love that a woman who is a therapist is brutally honest about our broken approach to grief. The reason for her outspoken opinion breaks my heart and the candid reflections on how insensitive our culture is regarding grieving also break my heart. I feel like this book should be required reading - at least by high school. It's tough reading, but I truly believe it could change the way people respond to the subject of grief. We could support ourselves and others so much better. We could stop accidentally hurting one another by repeating the cycle of insensitive responses that we learned from our parents and culture. This book is absolutely worth reading!

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ISBN:
9781622039074
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Trade Paperback
Publication date:
10/01/2017
Publisher:
SOUNDS TRUE INCORPORATED
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280
Height:
.80IN
Width:
5.20IN
Foreword:
Mark Nepo
Author:
Megan Devine

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