Synopses & Reviews
For some gay men being homosexual is often anything but "gay." What are typically assumed to be "gay attributes" are often not characteristics of being gay but symptoms of common emotional disorders in gay men.
In this insightful book, longtime psychiatrist Martin Kantor—who is himself a gay man and has been in a committed relationship for 27 years—documents the issues associated with coming out and the challenges of gay relationships, including friendship, marriage, "getting dumped," and sexuality, with unflinching and honest candor. He also addresses the emotional problems and pervasive sense of loneliness that frequently haunt gay men while examining subcultural issues which exist within the gay community, including ageism. Other topics include developing a gay lifestyle (being gay in a certain way), parental relationships, issues of midlife and aging, and therapy and self-help options for gay men who feel they need it.
Synopsis
This book is an invaluable resource manual and survival guide for gay men who often turn to peers, parents, educators, or the media for direction, only to encounter misleading myths about gay life, such as the notion that "coming out solves everything."
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The 2000 censusthe first to count gay and lesbian couples in the United Statesshowed 594,743 admitted gay couples, likely a significant underestimate since not all gay couples were willing to be so identified. Despite increasing acceptance of homosexuality in America, homophobia and discrimination are still pervasive; "coming out" is not the panacea it is often assumed to be.
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• Goes beyond the superficial subject matter covered in the literature to help gay men with their deep, personal concerns
• Addresses emotional problems in gay men—such as guilt, suicidal thoughts or feelings, and substance abuse—often overlooked, dismissed, or mishandled by laymen and experts alike
• Shares insights about gay men's problems through letters, therapy sessions, and private admissions from gay men
• Appropriate for gay men first encountering the gay subculture as well as gay men who are more experienced yet still feel that their lives are lacking or are in need a of complete change
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• Contains a bibliography of useful sources and further reading
• Provides a glossary of important terms