Synopses & Reviews
You've tried everything you can think of, but nothing you do seems to have any effect on your child's chronic procrastinating. The school called again to complain that your daughter is still bullying the other kids in her class, and you don't know how to make her stop without becoming a bully yourself. Your son explodes in anger if he loses at anything--sports or even fun family games. And your kids constantly argue with each other and with you. If you're looking for a different way to handle problems like these, this book is for you. Written by internationally acclaimed parenting author Dr. Myrna Shure,
Thinking Parent, Thinking Child arms you with powerful techniques for dealing with these and dozens of other issues confronting today's parents.
In her national bestseller Raising a Thinking Child, Dr. Shure introduced parents to her original "I Can Problem Solve" approach to teaching children the critical thinking skills they need to solve problems on their own. Now, in Thinking Parent, Thinking Child, she shows how to apply "I Can Problem Solve" techniques to the top concerns of parents and children from preschoolers through those in their preteen years. Not only will children learn to think about their own and others' feelings, they'll also learn to appreciate that you have feelings, too. You'll see how weighing your options before responding to your children will inspire them to weigh their options. As you reflect on your own behavior toward your children, you may wonder, "Is time-out really useful?" or "Will spanking help or hurt?" And just as you want your child to listen to you, you'll find yourself asking, "Am I really listening to him?"
The important lessons presented in this book go far beyond how to manage or control specific problems. Instead, you'll be able to help your child find her own best solutions to problems--ranging from getting her homework done to test anxiety to teasing to being teased to peer pressure.
Thinking Parent, Thinking Child gives you tools to help your kids become less aggressive, inhibited, and fearful, and more cooperative, empathic, and better able to handle life's frustrations and disappointments.
Advance Praise for Thinking Parent, Thinking Child
"Myrna Shure's approach stresses the necessity of having both child and parent learn to think through effective strategies for handling common problems. This balanced perspective will find a solid endorsement from today's guilt-laden parents who hear all too often that the responsibility for harmonious family functioning lies totally with them. Thinking Parent, Thinking Child reminds them from the title forward that thinking and learning must occur on both sides of the generation fence.
--Bettye Caldwell, Ph.D., past president of the National Association for the Education of Young Children
Unlike the advice of so many 'parenting experts,' the effectiveness of Dr. Shures work has been scientifically validated. If you want to truly prepare your child to become a happy, successful, functional adult, this book is a must.
--Sam Goldstein, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Resilient Children
Dr. Shure empowers parents to boost their children's emotional thinking skills. Her real-life vignettes reveal that children can learn how to create solutions for their problems.
--Alice S. Honig, Ph.D., professor emerita of child development at Syracuse University
"Myrna Shure applies her unique and proven problem-solving approach to a wide range of challenges and helps parents think through sensible and usable solutions. A must-read for parents, grandparents, teachers, and anyone who spends time with kids."
--Susan Ginsberg, Ed.D., editor and publisher of Work & Family Life newsletter
"Based on many years of research and development, the book carries on the tradition of Benjamin Spock as a resource for giving self-confidence to parents and support to their children. Most important, the book is a resource for helping to build lifelong skills for listening and being empathic, being resourceful, and building family ties."
--James G. Kelly, Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychology, University of Illinois at Chicago
Synopsis
A hands-on guide for parent/child problem solving from the bestselling author of Raising a Thinking Child
Shows parents how to help their children deal with everyday issues using the awardwinning "I Can Problem Solve" program
The author of two bestselling parenting classics, Dr. Myrna Shure has helped thousands of parents and children with her award-winning "I Can Problem Solve" (ICPS) program, based on her original research in developmental psychology. In Thinking Parent, Thinking Child, Dr. Shure applies her ICPS program to the 150 top concerns of parents and children.
Here parents will learn how to guide their children to find their own solutions to specific issues, including:
- Being a good loser
- Coping with bullying and teasing
- Planning time for homework
- Learning genuine empathy
- Dealing with loss
- Controlling rudeness, bad language, and back talk
- Handling the stresses of school testing, world events, and more
Synopsis
Bring harmony to your house by building your children's problem-solving skillsIf you are lost for answers to your daughter's bullying (or being the victim of a bully), your son's sudden bursts of anger, homework issues, or the constant bickering among your kids, Dr. Myrna Shure has the proven solution you so desperately need. In her national bestseller Raising a Thinking Child, Dr. Shure introduced parents to her original "I Can Problem Solve" approach to teaching children the critical thinking skills they need to solve problems on their own. Now, in Thinking Parent, Thinking Child, she shows how to apply "I Can Problem Solve" techniques to almost 100 of the top issues and problems kids face that concern parents mostsuch as being a sore loser, acting aggressively, having trouble with friendships or teachers, or experiencing a major loss.
With help from Dr. Shure you will learn how to:
- Become a thinking parent--when a difficult situation arises, weigh your options and help your children figure out for themselves what to do, rather than reacting impetuously and telling them what to do
- Change your children's behavior from aggressive, inhibited, and fearful to more cooperative and empathetic and better equipped to handle disappointments
- Create an open environment at home so children feel comfortable communicating their problems and issues
"If you're looking for a parenting book that doesn't rehash the obvious, this is it. . . . Shure helps you help your kids help themselves, making them less susceptible to peer pressure and worse later on."
--The New York Post
Synopsis
The bestselling author of Raising aThinking Child shows parents how tohelp their children solve more than 100common problemsBest-selling author Dr. Myrna Shure has helpedthousands of parents and children with her awardwinning“I Can Problem Solve” (ICPS) program, basedon her own original research in developmental psychology.Thinking Parent,Thinking Child will help you guide your children in the use of ICPS to come upwith their own solutions to more than 100 of themost common problems, including being a sore loser,acting aggressively, having trouble with friendships orteachers, or experiencing a major loss.
“If youre looking for aparenting book thatdoesnt rehash theobvious, this is it.”New York Post
About the Author
Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Drexel University in Philadelphia. She is the author of two award-winning parenting books and the creator of nationally recognized conflict resolution and violence prevention programs for schools.