Synopses & Reviews
Based on the principles in the besstselling Torn Asunder--a book that has helped thousands of people survive infidelity--this revised and expanded workbook offers five crucial services for hurting couples:
- Stabilizes the marriage in the initial crisis
- Provides structure for the emotionally volatile environment
- Brings closure to the "e;old"e; marriage—the marriage prior to the affair
- Establishes skills necessary for the "e;new"e; marriage pattern
- Answers the questions: How could you do this to me? Why did you do it?
The Torn Asunder workbook is built around daily twenty-minute homework exercises, initiated by each spouse on alternating days for ten to fifteen weeks. Working with your spouse might be the last thing you want to do right now, but it’s essential to your long-term recovery, whether or not your marriage survives.
Healing won’t be easy. But the Torn Asunder workbook provides hope, encouragement, and practical advice on the journey. Take the first step today.
Synopsis
This workbook is an excellent tool for couples to work through and apply the material presented in Torn Asunder. It is organized into daily twenty-minute exercises initiated by each spouse on alternating days. Because this tragic situation is not easily resolved, this workbook is a must to get couples on the road to healing and oneness.
Synopsis
The Torn Asunder Workbook is built around daily twenty-minute homework exercises, initiated by each spouse on alternating days for ten to fifteen weeks. Working with your spouse might be the last thing you want to do right now, but it’s essential to your long-term recovery, whether or not your marriage survives.
About the Author
DAVE CARDER serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA. His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, has done training for the US Army and Navy, plus multiple tapings for The Tony Robbins Passion Project, Marriage Uncensored, 100 Huntley Street, Salvation Army Leadership Training, and the American Association of Christian Counselors. His interviews and articles have appeared in Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals. He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married 49 years, have four adult children, and eight grandchildren.
Table of Contents
Introduction: A Time for Growth
1. Key Concepts for Recovery
2. Looking at Your Marital History
3. Marital Style
4. Preparing For and Processing Forgiveness
5. Rebuilding Trust
6. Reconnecting with Each Other
7. Family-of-Origin Practices That Predisposed Our Marriage to Infidelity
8. Patterns That Predisposed Our Marriage to Infidelity
9. Circumstances That Triggered the Affair
10. Things I Have Learned and Changes I Have Made
11. Into the Future
Appendix A: Workbook Homework Schedule
Appendix B: Select Marriage and Recovery Resources