Synopses & Reviews
A provocative book that explains why men are so afraid of commitment -- and what women can do about it.
Why is it so hard for a man to say "I love you"? Why is it so hard for a man to ask a woman to marry him, even if this is exactly what he wants? Women work hard at relationships but all too often, just when things seem to be going well, men tend to pull away, cheating themselves out of the happiness they really want...and leaving women feeling hurt and confused. It doesn't have to be that way.
In Why Men Won't Commit, celebrated psychologist Dr. George Weinberg explains the secret fears that make men run away from relationships and the simple things that women can do to overcome them. Men want lasting relationships just as much as women do, but they fear that commitment means loss -- most of all, the loss of masculinity. Men are far more fearful and insecure than most women imagine, with the same basic needs dictating their behavior:
The need to be special.
The need to travel light -- to minimize obligations and maximize independence.
The need for loyalty.
The need to be close emotionally, whether or not they can ask for it.
Once women understand these needs, they can help men see that commitment is a strength, and not a weakness. Why Men Won't Commit will show women how to enter places where her man has not allowed any other woman to go...and stay there in a loving, committed relationship.
About the Author
George Weinberg has appeared on many national radio and television shows, including Oprah, The Today Show, and Live with Regis and Kathy Lee. The author of nine books and a frequent contributor to such magazines as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Reader's Digest, he is a clinical psychologist in New York, where he lives.
Table of Contents
Contents Introduction
PART ONE
HIS BASIC NEEDS
1. Men Are the Weaker Sex
2. See Me As I Really Am, Not Only As I Pretend to Be
YOUR MAN'S FIRST BASIC NEED -- THE CRAVING TO BE SPECIAL
3. Keeping It Light When You Start to Care
YOUR MAN'S SECOND BASIC NEED -- TO TRAVEL LIGHT
4. Be There for Me. I'm Scared.
YOUR MAN'S THIRD BASIC NEED -- LOYALTY
5. Give Me the Love That I'm Too Ashamed to Ask For
YOUR MAN'S FOURTH BASIC NEED -- TO BE CLOSE EMOTIONALLY
PART TWO
CONNECTING
6. Sex -- the Technicolor Experience
7. When Worlds Collide -- His Friends and Yours
PART THREE
TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
8. How to Argue with a Lover
9. When There's Big Trouble
ARE YOU GIVING TOO MUCH?
10. Your Most Important Relationship