Synopses & Reviews
Dr. George Weinberg has been a therapist for over twenty-five years. In that time, he has worked with a great range of men, and he has discovered that deep down, men actually want commitment, love, and permanence every bit as much as women do. Over the years, his patients -- even those who have had a string of failed relationships -- have expressed deep desires for permanent, monogamous mariages.
So why do they behave as if they don't?
And what can a woman who wants a relationship do to help her man commit?
While other therapists tend to be students of women, Dr. Weinberg is a student of men. From childhood, most men have been taught to be strong and silent, never to show weakness. They've been discouraged from talking about their feelings, so they never learned the skill. Now, most are on a quest for the ready-made perfect woman. They feel that, in relationships, things can't be worked out. When the slightest thing goes wrong, it seems easier to bolt than to talk.
In engaging prose filled with anecdotes we all can relate to, Dr.Weinberg unveils the psyche of men to show the real insecurities that lurk there. Other books like The Rules and Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus have played right into men's fears -- by accepting the old myth and telling women that their job is to "overcome" men's fear of commitment. As Dr.Weinberg explains, this is exactly the wrong thing to do. Men have a powerful radar that tells them to run away when any strategy is being used on them. He explains why games of any kind -- playing hard to get, making a man jealous -- will only push a man further from commitment. And he gives women four simple keys to understanding their man's real needs and helping them move toward relationships.
It is easy to scare a man, but it is also easy to capture his love without playing games. Why Men Won't Commit shows women how to enter places where her man has not allowed any other woman to go and, if it's right, to stay there in a loving, committed relationship.
Synopsis
Most women have experienced at least one of these scenarios: a man hesitates to get close, breaks things off when they seem to be going well, or pushes his partner away until she's forced to do the breaking up herself. The truth, as popular author and renowned psychologist George Weinberg reveals in this eye-opening new book, is all too simple: women overestimate men. Most men lack genuine insight into their own emotions, so they operate on the basis of their "gut reactions, " which often do not accurately reflect their needs and desires. Dr. Weinberg explores the nature of these reactions and then helps women translate this deeper understanding of masculinity into a more fulfilling and longer-lasting relationship.
Because men aren't raised to understand themselves or explore their own emotions, they are, in a sense, the weaker sex. Building on this provocative premise, Why Men Won't Commit outlines the four basic needs most men harbor: the need to be special; the need to "travel light" and keep things simple; the need for loyalty; and the need for emotional closeness -- whether or not they're capable of asking for it. These needs provide the fundamental keys to understanding men. Unusually straightforward and deeply insightful, Dr. Weinberg's breakthrough book shows readers the path to true connection and lasting commitment.
Synopsis
Taking a candid and provocative exploration of the nature of masculinity, a renowned psychologist provides women with the insight and advice they need to get men to commit by using modern, honest, non-manipulative techniques.
About the Author
George Weinberg, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the author of nine books, including
Self-Creation, The Heart of Psychotherapy, and
Society and the Healthy Homosexual (in which he coined the term "homophobia"). He has appeared on many national radio and television shows, including Oprah and Live with Regis and Kathy Lee, and has written frequently for magazines from
Cosmopolitan and
Glamour to
TV Guide and
Reader's Digest. Table of Contents
ContentsIntroduction
PART ONE
HIS BASIC NEEDS
1. Men Are the Weaker Sex
2. See Me As I Really Am, Not Only As I Pretend to Be
YOUR MAN'S FIRST BASIC NEED -- THE CRAVING TO BE SPECIAL
3. Keeping It Light When You Start to Care
YOUR MAN'S SECOND BASIC NEED -- TO TRAVEL LIGHT
4. Be There for Me. I'm Scared.
YOUR MAN'S THIRD BASIC NEED -- LOYALTY
5. Give Me the Love That I'm Too Ashamed to Ask For
YOUR MAN'S FOURTH BASIC NEED -- TO BE CLOSE EMOTIONALLY
PART TWO
CONNECTING
6. Sex -- the Technicolor Experience
7. When Worlds Collide -- His Friends and Yours
PART THREE
TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
8. How to Argue with a Lover
9. When There's Big Trouble
ARE YOU GIVING TOO MUCH?
10. Your Most Important Relationship