Synopses & Reviews
Every story can change a life.
Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, making them feel like they have nowhere to turn. This is especially true for LGBT kids and teens who often hide their sexuality for fear of bullying. Without other openly gay adults and mentors in their lives, they can't imagine what their future may hold. In many instances, gay and lesbian adolescents are taunted - even tortured - simply for being themselves.
After a number of tragic suicides by LGBT students who were bullied in school, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage uploaded a video to YouTube with his partner Terry Miller to inspire hope for LGBT youth facing harassment. Speaking openly about the bullying they suffered as teenagers, and how they both went on to lead rewarding adult lives, their video launched the It Gets Better Project YouTube channel and initiated a worldwide phenomenon. With over 6,000 videos posted and over 20 million views in the first three months alone, the world has embraced the opportunity to provide personal, honest and heartfelt support for LGBT youth everywhere.
It Gets Better is a collection of expanded essays and new material from celebrities, everyday people and teens who have posted videos of encouragement, as well as new contributors who have yet to post videos to the site. While many of these teens couldn't see a positive future for themselves, we can. We can show LGBT youth the levels of happiness, potential and positivity their lives will reach if they can just get through their teen years. By sharing these stories, It Gets Better reminds teenagers in the LGBT community that they are not alone - and it WILL get better.
Review
andquot;Handpicked and heartfelt essays from contributors famous and obscure, gay and straight.andquot;
Review
"A masterstroke . . . revolutionary." -Armistead Maupin, author of Tales of the City
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and#8220;Schwartz's frank discussion of a subject many still find taboo will be helpful to parents of LGBT children as one example of how to accept a natural condition with dignity and love. An added bonus is the delightful story written and illustrated by Joe. An honest, earnest, straightforward account of one boy's coming out.and#8221;
and#8212;Kirkus Reviews
and#8220;[A] moving account of a familyand#8217;s journey to raise and protect their gay sonand#8230; Equally humorous and heartrending, this memoir reveals just what it takes to raise children who are different in a world still resistant.and#8221;
and#8212;Publishers Weekly
and#8220;John Schwartz and Jeanne Mixon are the heroes of Oddly Normal.and#160; Still, the star of the book is Joe.and#160; Itand#8217;s impossible not to fall in love with a kid who, even amid his torment, displays such droll humor and fierce intelligence.and#8221;
and#8212;The New York Times Book Review
and#8220;Schwartz writes a poignant and well-documented account of what it meant to be a father who had tried all he could to make his son feel comfortable, but still came terrifyingly close to losing him.and#8221;
and#8212;The Daily Texan
and#8220;An inspiring story, and much needed at a time when so many others end tragically.and#8221;
and#8212;ModernTonic.com
and#8220;Oddly Normal chronicles the Schwartz familyand#8217;s mistakes, heartaches and triumphs in raising a child coming to grips with his sexuality.and#8221;
and#8212;Mother Jones Magazine
and#8220;Oddly Normal is a funny, touching and indispensible book. Moving as well as buoyant, it will give parents of gay children a great deal of hope.and#8221;
and#8212;Gary Shteyngart, New York Times bestselling author of Super Sad True Love Story
and#8220;John Schwartz has written a moving and important memoir about the challenges that even the most enlightened parents face when bringing up a gay son. Combining personal experiences with rigorous reporting, Oddly Normal will be tremendously useful to anyone raising a child perceived as different.and#8221;
and#8212;Charles Kaiser, author of The Gay Metropolis
and#8220;John Schwartz shares his familyand#8217;s bumpy journey with humor, a journalistand#8217;s eye for detail, and a generous honesty of emotion.and#8221;
and#8212;Jennifer Pizer, Senior Counsel and Director of the Law and Policy Project at Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund
and#8220;Oddly Normal is a book for parents, teachers, and anyone who works with children. Mr. Schwartz illustrates how even the most accepting parents often need assistance staying engaged, to best help a child who is not fitting inand#8212;in fact, there is a little bit of Joseph Schwartz in every kid.and#8221;
and#8212;Joseph Clementi, founder of the Tyler Clementi Foundation
and#8220;Jeanne and John Schwartz are inspiring parental role models, and Iand#8217;m sure Iand#8217;ll think of them oftenand#8230;and#8221;
and#8212;Slate.com and#160; and#8220;Schwartz, an ace reporter for theand#160;New York Times, peppers his emotional response with vital research and telling anecdotes.and#8221;
and#8212;Queerty.com
and#8220;Schwartz's memoir is brave and beautiful, surprising and inspiring, a testament to parents' endless determination to help their children, and the bottomless capacity for love.and#8221;
and#8212;CNN.com
and#160;
and#8220;[A] very personal, touching, funny and frank memoir. Anyone with a teenager, gay or straight, will be able to relate to a parent's struggle when dealing with their troubled child.and#8221;
and#8212;USATODAY.com
and#160;
Review
andquot;Handpicked and heartfelt essays from contributors famous and obscure, gay and straight.andquot;
Review
andquot;A masterstroke . . . revolutionary.andquot;
Review
and#8220;Schwartz's frank discussion of a subject many still find taboo will be helpful to parents of LGBT children as one example of how to accept a natural condition with dignity and love. An added bonus is the delightful story written and illustrated by Joe. An honest, earnest, straightforward account of one boy's coming out.and#8221;
and#8212;Kirkus Reviews
and#8220;[A] moving account of a familyand#8217;s journey to raise and protect their gay sonand#8230; Equally humorous and heartrending, this memoir reveals just what it takes to raise children who are different in a world still resistant.and#8221;
and#8212;Publishers Weekly
and#8220;John Schwartz and Jeanne Mixon are the heroes of Oddly Normal.and#160; Still, the star of the book is Joe.and#160; Itand#8217;s impossible not to fall in love with a kid who, even amid his torment, displays such droll humor and fierce intelligence.and#8221;
and#8212;The New York Times Book Review
and#8220;Schwartz writes a poignant and well-documented account of what it meant to be a father who had tried all he could to make his son feel comfortable, but still came terrifyingly close to losing him.and#8221;
and#8212;The Daily Texan
and#8220;An inspiring story, and much needed at a time when so many others end tragically.and#8221;
and#8212;ModernTonic.com
and#8220;Oddly Normal chronicles the Schwartz familyand#8217;s mistakes, heartaches and triumphs in raising a child coming to grips with his sexuality.and#8221;
and#8212;Mother Jones Magazine
and#8220;Oddly Normal is a funny, touching and indispensible book. Moving as well as buoyant, it will give parents of gay children a great deal of hope.and#8221;
and#8212;Gary Shteyngart, New York Times bestselling author of Super Sad True Love Story
and#8220;John Schwartz has written a moving and important memoir about the challenges that even the most enlightened parents face when bringing up a gay son. Combining personal experiences with rigorous reporting, Oddly Normal will be tremendously useful to anyone raising a child perceived as different.and#8221;
and#8212;Charles Kaiser, author of The Gay Metropolis
and#8220;John Schwartz shares his familyand#8217;s bumpy journey with humor, a journalistand#8217;s eye for detail, and a generous honesty of emotion.and#8221;
and#8212;Jennifer Pizer, Senior Counsel and Director of the Law and Policy Project at Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund
and#8220;Oddly Normal is a book for parents, teachers, and anyone who works with children. Mr. Schwartz illustrates how even the most accepting parents often need assistance staying engaged, to best help a child who is not fitting inand#8212;in fact, there is a little bit of Joseph Schwartz in every kid.and#8221;
and#8212;Joseph Clementi, founder of the Tyler Clementi Foundation
and#8220;Jeanne and John Schwartz are inspiring parental role models, and Iand#8217;m sure Iand#8217;ll think of them oftenand#8230;and#8221;
and#8212;Slate.com and#160; and#8220;Schwartz, an ace reporter for theand#160;New York Times, peppers his emotional response with vital research and telling anecdotes.and#8221;
and#8212;Queerty.com
and#8220;Schwartz's memoir is brave and beautiful, surprising and inspiring, a testament to parents' endless determination to help their children, and the bottomless capacity for love.and#8221;
and#8212;CNN.com
and#160;
and#8220;[A] very personal, touching, funny and frank memoir. Anyone with a teenager, gay or straight, will be able to relate to a parent's struggle when dealing with their troubled child.and#8221;
and#8212;USATODAY.com
and#160;
Synopsis
A heartfelt memoir by the father of a gay teen, and an eye-opening story for families who hope to bring up well-adjusted gay adults.
Three years ago, John Schwartz, a national correspondent at The New York Times, got the call that every parent hopes never to receive: his thirteen-year-old son, Joe, was in the hospital following a failed suicide attempt. After mustering the courage to come out to his classmates, Joeandrsquo;s disclosure andmdash; delivered in a tirade about homophobic attitudesandmdash;was greeted with dismay and confusion by his fellow students. Hours later, he took an overdose of pills.
and#160;
Additionally, John and his wife, Jeanne, found that their sonandrsquo;s school was unable to address Joeandrsquo;s special needs. Angry and frustrated, they initiated their own search for services and groups that could help Joe understand that he wasnandrsquo;t alone. Oddly Normal is Schwartzandrsquo;s very personal attempt to address his familyandrsquo;s own struggles within a culture that is changing fast, but not fast enough to help gay kids like Joe.
Schwartz follows Joseph through childhood to the present day, interweaving his narrative with common questions, including: Are effeminate boys and tomboy girls necessarily gay? Is there a relationship between being gay and suicide or mental illness? Should a child be pushed into coming out? Parents, teachers, and counselors alike will welcome Oddly Normal and its crucial lessons about helping gay kids andndash;and any kid who is different -- learn how to cope in a potentially hostile world.
and#160;
Synopsis
Every story can change a life.
Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, and this is especially true for LGBT kids and teens. In response to a number of tragic suicides by LGBT students, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage uploaded a video to YouTube with his partner, Terry Miller. Speaking openly about the bullying they suffered, and how they both went on to lead rewarding adult lives, their video launched the It Gets Better Project YouTube channel and initiated a worldwide phenomenon.
It Gets Better is a collection of original essays and expanded testimonials written to teens from celebrities, political leaders, and everyday people, because while many LGBT teens can't see a positive future for themselves, we can.
Synopsis
A heartfelt memoir by the father of a gay teen, and an eye-opening guide for families who hope to bring up well-adjusted gay adults.
Three years ago, John Schwartz, a national correspondent at The New York Times, got the call that every parent hopes never to receive: his thirteen-year-old son, Joe, was in the hospital following a failed suicide attempt. After finally mustering the courage to come out to his classmates, Joeandrsquo;s disclosure andmdash; delivered in a tirade about homophobic attitudesandmdash;was greeted with dismay and confusion by his fellow students. Hours later, he took an overdose of pills.
In the aftermath, John and his wife, Jeanne, found that their sonandrsquo;s school was unable to address Joeandrsquo;s special needs. Angry and frustrated, they initiated their own search for services and groups that could help Joe understand that he wasnandrsquo;t alone. Oddly Normal is Schwartzandrsquo;s very personal attempt to address his familyandrsquo;s own struggles within a culture that is changing fast, but not fast enough to help gay kids like Joe.
Schwartz follows Joseph through childhood to the present day, interweaving his narrative with common questions, including: Are effeminate boys and tomboy girls necessarily gay? Is there a relationship between being gay and suicide or mental illness? Should a child be pushed into coming out? Parents, teachers, and counselors alike will welcome Oddly Normal and its crucial lessons about helping gay kids andndash;and any kid who is different -- learn how to cope in a potentially hostile world.
and#160;
Synopsis
Coming out can be fraught with difficulty for both parents and childandmdash;but Wesley C. Davidson, a popular blogger on gay rights issues, and Dr. Jonathan Tobkes, a New York City-based psychiatrist, provide a road map so families can better navigate this rocky emotional terrain. Emphasizing communication and unconditional love, Davidson and Tobkes help parents untangle their own feelings, identify and overcome barriers to acceptance, encourage strong self-esteem in their child, handle negative or hostile reactions to their childandrsquo;s sexual identity, and more. Filled with case studies and interviews, along with useful action plans and conversation starters, this is a positive, progressive guide to raising healthy, well-adjusted adults.
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About the Author
Dan Savage is the author of the internationally syndicated column, "Savage Love" and the editor of The Stranger, Seattle's weekly newspaper. His writing has appeared in The New York Times Magazine, the op-ed pages of The New York Times, Travel & Leisure, Salon.com, Nest, Rolling Stone, The Onion, and many others. He lives in Seattle, Washington with his husband Terry Miller.
Terry Miller is a DJ, event promoter, musician, and music critic/blogger. Terry is Dan Savage's partner of sixteen years.