Synopses & Reviews
A multicultural parenting guide—with eye-opening research on the surprising disadvantages lurking in the typical American childhood. Recent bestsellers and media headlines have sparked heated debates about whether American parents are fostering a generation of spoiled underachievers. Taking a new approach to this provocative topic,
Parenting Without Borders weaves compelling research with an engaging personal story to deliver a truly international viewpoint. Christine Gross-Loh (who raised her young children in Japan for several years) explores parenting around the globe to reveal the hidden norms we have about “good parenting.” This book takes us to Finland, Sweden, Germany, France, Japan, China, Italy and beyond to explore how parents foster resilience, creativity, and learning in their children, from infancy to early adulthood. Revealing the surprising ways in which culture shapes accepted practices, Gross-Loh also offers objective, scholarly insight into the best practices of raising children from around the globe.
Fascinating findings include:· Co-sleeping, typical in most of the world’s families, may promote independence in kids· “Hover” parenting is unique to Americans and can damage a child’s resilience· Finnish children, who rank among the world’s highest academic achievers, enjoy multiple recesses a day· So-called universal developmental stages like the “terrible twos” do not exist in some cultures At last bringing empirical research to the debate, Parenting Without Borders offers illuminating anecdotes and timeless wisdom for raising a confident and capable generation.
Review
“An intriguing look at parenting paradigms in countries where children are deemed to be the best adjusted…Gross-Lohs patient, grounded explication and engaging personal anecdotes make this a much more positive, culturally expansive contribution to the discussion than most parenting books.”
—Kirkus Reviews
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Praise for Parenting Without Borders
"Every now and then I read a book that changes the way I think. Christine Gross-Loh's Parenting Without Borders is one of those books. This will be the only book I buy for new parents…The observations are interesting and important for parents of children at every age."
—Rachel Rose, Brain, Child magazine
"In this beautifully written book, Christine Gross-Loh provokes American parents to see how we might do better, often with less intensity, to reach our own goals."
—Robert A. LeVine, Emeritus Professor of Education and Human Development, Harvard Graduate School of Education
“Through insightful research and a refreshingly skeptical approach, parenting expert Gross-Loh peers through a global lens to uncover innovative ways to raise children in contemporary America.”
—Worth Magazine
“An intriguing look at parenting paradigms”
—Kirkus
"You dont have to move to Finland—even though your son would learn how to sew his own bathing suit and duffel bag in school—but you do want to read this book. Parenting Without Borders takes the reader on an eye-opening, fascinating, and vital tour of time-tested and effective parenting practices, with great armchair traveling thrown in for free."
—Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessings of a B Minus and The Blessings of a Skinned Knee
“Our hovering/helping/worrying way of parenting feels so “instinctual” that it is astounding—and freeing!—to read how odd it appears to other cultures. Better still, this lovely book brims with examples of things parents in other countries do differently that could make our lives (and our kids) so much nicer. Love it!”
—Lenore Skenazy, founder of the book and blog Free-Range Kids
“In this valuable book, Christine Gross-Loh asks us to broaden our view of what constitutes good parenting; she challenges us to go beyond the limitations of our borders. This is an overdue approach to the future of the American family, demanding both intellect and humility.”
—Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods
“The dilemmas facing loving parents regarding how best to raise their kids can be vexing and entrapping. Christines book offers clear and effective release for parents from their anxieties by revealing a rich landscape of effective multicultural parenting practices experiences. A balanced, factual, fresh book.”
—Stuart Brown, M.D., author of Play and founder of the National Institute of Play
“Young American parents including myself are plagued with the feeling of making it up as they go along. Cultures around the world contain so much wisdom on parenting—and its far past time that we harvested the best of it. Christine Gross-Loh couldnt be a better guide to lead us on a grand world tour of parenting styles and practices.”
—Ethan Watters, author of Crazy Like Us
“Christine Gross-Loh offers a global perspective on parenting thats practical, reasoned, and fascinating. Parenting Without Borders helps all parents take-away greater compassion, simplicity, confidence, joy and balance by sharing best practices of parents around the world. A must-read for these globally-connected times.”
-Homa S. Tavangar, author of Growing up Global
“This book should be required reading for any parent or anyone thinking of becoming one.”
—Marianne LaFrance, Professor of Psychology and Professor of Womens Gender and Sexuality Studies at Yale University and author of Why Smile?
“This even-handed, fascinating, well-researched book takes the reader on a journey to so many different cultures and countries. On every page I learned something to make me both a better parent and a more thoughtful educator.”
—Jennifer Margulis, Ph.D., Senior Fellow, Schuster Institute for Investigative Journalism, Brandeis University and author of The Business of Baby
“What an eye-opening tour through parenting practices the world round! Gross-Loh brings balance and perspective to complex issues, with wonderful results. Her lucid and balanced book will help parents see their practices anew, and ground their everyday decisions in something very like wisdom.”
— Gish Jen, author of Tiger Writing
“An intriguing look at parenting paradigms in countries where children are deemed to be the best adjusted…Gross-Lohs patient, grounded explication and engaging personal anecdotes make this a much more positive, culturally expansive contribution to the discussion than most parenting books.”
—Kirkus Reviews
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"In this beautifully written book, Christine Gross-Loh provokes American parents to see how we might do better, often with less intensity, to reach our own goals."
—Robert A. LeVine, Emeritus Professor of Education and Human Development, Harvard Graduate School of Education
“Through insightful research and a refreshingly skeptical approach, parenting expert Gross-Loh peers through a global lens to uncover innovative ways to raise children in contemporary America.”
—Worth magazine
“In this valuable book, Christine Gross-Loh asks us to broaden our view of what constitutes good parenting; she challenges us to go beyond the limitations of our borders. This is an overdue approach to the future of the American family, demanding both intellect and humility.”
—Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods
"Bracingly honest, straightforward, and thought-provoking."
—The Boston Globe
"You may not agree with each point Christine Gross-Loh makes, but there's much food for thought here.”
—Pittsburgh Post-Gazette
"Smart, well-researched, accessible, and fun."
—The Huffington Post
Synopsis
A primer on the world's best parenting strategieswith eye-opening research on the surprising disadvantages lurking in the typical American childhood.
Research reveals American kids today lag well behind the rest of the world in terms of academic achievement, happiness, and wellness. Meanwhile the battle over whether parents are to blame for fostering a generation of helpless kids rages on. Christine Gross-Loh (who raised her young children in Japan for five years) exposes the hidden, culturally-determined norms we have about good parenting,” and asks, are there parenting strategies that other countries are getting right that we are not? This book takes us from Finland, and Sweden to Germany, France, Japan, China, Italy, and more, and examines how parents successfully foster resilience, creativity, independence and academic excellence in their children. Revealing the surprising ways in which culture shapes our parenting, Gross-Loh also offers objective, research-based insight into what strategies are best for children and why.
Among her eye-opening findings:
- Co-sleeping, typical in most of the worlds families, may promote independence in kids.
- American-style hoverparenting” is unique in the world and can damage a childs resilience.
- Finnish children, who rank among the worlds highest academic achievers, enjoy multiple recesses a day.
- Our obsession with self-esteema concept that doesnt exist in many countriesmay limit a childs potential
At last bringing empirical research to the debate, Parenting Without Borders offers new and provocative thinking on the secrets to raising a confident and capable generation.
Synopsis
An eye-opening guide to the worlds best parenting strategies
Research reveals that American kids lag behind in academic achievement, happiness, and wellness. Christine Gross-Loh exposes culturally determined norms we have about good parenting,” and asks, Are there parenting strategies other countries are getting right that we are not? This book takes us across the globe and examines how parents successfully foster resilience, creativity, independence, and academic excellence in their children. Illuminating the surprising ways in which culture shapes our parenting practices, Gross-Loh offers objective, research-based insight such as:
- Co-sleeping may promote independence in kids.
- Hoverparenting” can damage a childs resilience.
- Finnish children, who rank among the highest academic achievers, enjoy multiple recesses a day.
- Our obsession with self-esteem may limit a childs potential.
About the Author
Christine Gross-Loh is an author and journalist. Her writing has been featured in national outlets including the
Wall Street Journal, the Atlantic.com, and the
Huffington Post, and she holds a Ph.D. from Harvard University in East Asian history. See more at http://www.christinegrossloh.com.